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QUESTION:
what would be a good gift for my bosses?
I work for two attorneys, one is a woman and the other one is a man. Bosses day its coming, so I want to get a gift for each of them. Also, I am looking for something not so expensive! Thanks
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QUESTION:
Good gift for boss's day?
I'm struggling over what to get my boss for boss's day. He's unbelievably smart and likes to be challenged mentally, he likes The New Yorker Cartoons (last year I got him a book of their unprinted toons), golf, and unique art. I would love your suggestions!
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QUESTION:
What's a good gift to get your boss for Boss's Day?
Everyone says wine, but she doesn't really drink so that is out of the question. I don't really know her that well otherwise. Any ideas would be great 
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I'd say, something elegant. Something classy and appropriate. And it doesn't have to be extremely expensive. Just something unique and memorable that only you could have thought of.
Red Envolope has some pretty good ideas: http://tinyurl.com/greatgiftchoices
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QUESTION:
What is a good, not to fancy gift to get your boss for Boss Day on Monday? He has no hobbies.?
He has no hobbies to speak of, he is a laid back guy. He is the president of our little company and just looking for something to give him from the company to say "Thanks". For Admin day (which we are not) he just takes us 2 females out to a nice lunch.
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QUESTION:
What is a good hanukkah gift for a boss?
My boss is a very religious jewish woman, and I would like to give her a small gift during the holidays, but would like to honor her traditions and give it to her during hanukkah. What would be an appropriate gift? And is there a particularly good time to give it (i.e. gifts are exchanged on this day but never this day)? Thanks!
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Speaking as a religious Jewish woman, myself, Hanukkah is not the same as Christmas and gift giving is not necessarily a part of every Jewish person's tradition. (It isn't in our family.) If your boss is, as you say, a "very religious Jewish woman" then perhaps performing an act of charity (tzedakah) in her honor would be the best gift for her with a message tucked into a nice Hanukkah card (available at most Hallmark stores.) There are a variety of Jewish charities that cater to underprivileged children, the disabled, the poor or elderly, or victims of terror in Israel, and I am certain you could easily locate them with an online search.
On the other hand, if you truly wish to give her something tangible, I suggest a gift of kosher chocolate coins, preferably "Parve" (has neither milk nor dairy products in it) since if she is a member of some sects, the Orthodox Union mark (an O with a U inside of it) on dairy chocolate may not meet her standards of kosher observance. Or, consider some Dead Sea beauty products from Israel to connect her to the land where the "great miracle" we celebrate actually happened. Because oil is such a large part of Hanukkah observance, perhaps find her some very nice extra virgin olive oil with the OU mark on the label or O with a K inside of it. Try using a blue gift bag with silver tissue, or vice versa, the traditional Hanukkah colors. Friday night/Saturday until sundown would be the least appropriate times to give any gift since they are a part of the Sabbath. Any other of the days of Hanukkah would be fine.
I am certain whatever you choose to do for your boss, your kindness and thoughtfulness will be greatly appreciated.
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QUESTION:
What thanks gift is good for my chineese Boss?
My wife and me went for skiing with my Boss and his wife. He helped us in teaching and spent whole day with us and also he gave us his skiing and poles for skiing. So i am thinking to give a thanks card and a gift while returning back his things.
Can you suggest me something which will be good for both of them. And my budget is around .
Please suggest me something chineese.
Thanks
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ANSWER:
Whatever you get him, don't get him a clock/watch or mums flowers (especially white ones). If he's a superstitious Chinese guy, those things mean bad luck. Otherwise, it may be a bit pretentious to get a Chinese guy a Chinese gift. Try something more neutral.
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QUESTION:
What is a good birthday present to give your boss at their b-day party?
I was invited to a surprise b-day party at a restaurant being thrown for one of my bosses. The party is being thrown by the boss' sister. All of the food and drink is getting paid for by the sister and her family. Is it appropriate for me to bring a gift for my boss? What kind of gift is appropriate? I do not want to seem like I am trying to bribe my boss or be a "brown-nose" to my other co-workers if they don't bring gifts. I don't know if other co-workers are bringing presents or not. I already bought a card, though. Is that enough? The party is tonight and it is too late to go buy a group gift from everyone.
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Can you buy a gift card to something that your boss would enjoy? Does your boss like Starbuck's or a favorite restaurant. The gift card could be tucked into the birthday card and keep it out of sight until you see how the party goes. If you see no one else giving the boss a gift, then keep the gift for someone else at a later time. If you see people giving out gifts then you can turn in yours. Have fun!
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QUESTION:
What is a good gift for a 50yrl old man?
It is a 50th B-Day party. Anyone have a good idea? He doesnt drink. This is my husbands Boss who gives him a great $$$ bonus every year. Help!
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QUESTION:
What is a good gift I can give my boss for Christmas? I usually create a nice gift basket full of handmade...?
gifts...but I've been sick the past month and truly haven't had the desire or energy to create anything (I used to make picture frames, candle holder, bath salts, gourmet popcorn, etc... and I think she now "expects" me to make a thoughtful gift, but I really am not into it (or don't have the spare time)... she's going on a trip the day after tomorrow, so I need something quite quick! Any suggestions????
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Bath-and-Body Works maybe?
Tomarrow? Doesn't give you a lot of time.
I would make an easy picture frame.
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QUESTION:
What's a good gift to get my boss?
We're not really that close, but she got me a balloon for my birthday and a cactus for Christmas. Her birthday is in a few days and I wanted to get her a little something. Under 20 bucks. Nothing crazy or nothing stupid. She's middle aged, married, no kids, has a dog and loves to shop. Any ideas would be greatly appreciated Best answer gets 10 points.
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QUESTION:
Gift for my boss that loves Jewelry but I can afford to buy her jewels ? What to buy?
Cant figure out what gift to give my boss who has everything, her only hobby is jewelry, which I cant afford. I want to give her a good gift, so after shopping for 3 days I bought her a jewelry cleaner...Is that appropriate? Since she has tons and needs to clean it anyway, any suggestions, running out of time, xmas prty in 4 hrs
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QUESTION:
What is a good gift for a boss?
I don't want it to say I'm kissing up, do something for me. I want it to say, Thank you, I appreciate such a great boss. (She recently randomly changed my schedule from Tues & Weds off to Sunday & Monday off) I could just kiss her for it, but that would be akward lol
I want to give her something to make her smile like she has made me smile, by now having one weekend day off since both days are so out of the question. Come on! Give me creative ideas, that would make her day. Thanks!!
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ANSWER:
The answer above is right on....
Get a gift basket; they have them specially made up for coffee, tea, cheese, popcorn, snacks, health and beauty aids, etc.
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QUESTION:
What's a good x-mas gift for your boss?
My boss is a 40yr. old female, who’s allergic to everything under the sun so perfume and soap sets are out of the question and I already gave her gift cards to Starbucks & Borders for her b-day. So what's an inexpensive/easy Christmas gift?
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QUESTION:
What are you going to do or get for your boss tomorrow?
Since tomorrow is National butt kissing and brown nosing day. (Bosses day).
I have one male boss and one female boss so I am also wondering what you think would be a good gift for them.
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My "boss" isn't so much a boss, rather an old curmudgeon of a Sr. partner and I will simply wish that he gets an incurable illness so that I'll never have to work with this filthy scum again.
This guy is the worst man alive (technically superb in his work) but the most hateful, terrible human being I've dealt with. I get a lump in my throat just thinking about this old foul dinosaur.
I'll buy him some foul milk product that may or may not cause him some gastrointestinal virus but he's so clueless that he won't even taste how foul the cottage cheese is.
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QUESTION:
Its Boss's Day tomorrow and i was wondering what i should get for my boss. We're all pretty laid back, we
work at a collections agency and my boss well she's pretty cool and we all get along and so i was just wondering what some good ideas are for gifts for boss's day to show my appreciation for her helping me out and all.
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What gift should I get for my boss and his 5-year-old son?
I was recently hired by a big four accounting firm and next Tuesday I'm going to lunch with the partner, who is a friend of my dad's and also helped me through the interview process. I don't want to look like I'm bribing my boss but I really do want to thank him by buying him and his five-year-old son small, inexpensive, considerate gifts. What would be two good gifts?
My boss is a 43-year-old Asian accounting professional earning more than 0K a year. He is probably used to getting really good things, so I was thinking about getting him a 0 Mont Blanc pen, but that would be too expensive and probably constitute bribery. And my dad had given him ties and teas before, so those won't work either. Then I thought about colognes. Is Hugo Boss cologne, in the smaller size a good choice? Or other perfumes?
And what should I get for his five year old son? Toys? What exactly do five year olds like these days? A Wii game? Which one? I don't know for sure if they have Wii or not, should I get it anyways?
Thanks in advance.
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I can see how you would feel like you wanted to do something, but randomly gifting him right after you get hired will seem like brown-nosing!
I vote for giving his kid a nice toy--a transformers figurine? it's hard to imagine what a kid wouldn't have when his dad makes that much. Ask another five-year-old!--and then shaking the guy's hand and thanking him when you two have a moment, explaining that you wanted to make sure he knew that you valued and appreciated his help.
Of course, on holidays and special occasions (birthdays, superhuge contracts), let the gifts flow!
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QUESTION:
Is this a good gift for someone new?
I've been seeing someone for a little over a month. This is my first relationship, so I don't know if this is a good idea. He's a diesel mechanic so I was thinking about making some cookies shaped like hammers. Is that too corny? He's boss is a health freak and makes them eat those 6" Subway Sandwiches on Thursdays. He hates it and hits the vending machine when she's not looking. I was thinking of having two or three delivered to his house before Thursday and giving him the rest on Valentine's day. What do you think?
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QUESTION:
What do I do for Boss Day? ?
Boss day is coming up. I work at a law firm, and I'm not his assistant, I'm a temp, wanting to be permanent. What do I do to get in his good graces, what gift should I give him? He's an attorney.
I'm not his assistant, I just do clerical work and receptionist.
Thanks for the ideas!
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Boss day is a foolish pseudo-holiday designed to sell greeting cards, but in your case you might want to buy a card and an inexpensive gift (no more than --you're being paid temp wages, right?) that reflects his interests and is "business appropriate." I'd avoid alcohol and stuffed animals, cutesy gifts, or anything he'd have to display in his office. Depending on his personality, something like home made fudge in an attractive glass jar (bring an extra tray for the whole staff) could work. Or a gift certificate to Starbuck's.
Keep the card and gift separate in your desk drawer until you see what others are doing. If nobody gives him anything, give him just the card and take the gift home for yourself...otherwise he and your co-workers might think you're trying too hard and it will backfire.
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QUESTION:
AshTray for a gift/Gift for Boss
I work at an internship and my 2 bosses have been really good to me and as a thank you gift was I was planning on giving my male british boss an ashtray cuz he smokes, so is buying an ash tray a nice gift t? What should I get for a male boss? And also whats nice for a gift who is a girl. She is also british, but she's not big on candies or anything like that. But she has starbucks (tea) every single day. should I get her a starbucks cup for for her? Any other ideas? I also have a gay coworker as well. Any ideas? Something like les than or something
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Okay, the first two were cool, but how does telling me this guy is gay give me any idea what you should give him? I think getting an ashtray or a really nice lighter would be a great idea for a smoker (as long as he's not trying to quit), and you can get nice ones, maybe engraved at Things Remembered, if they have those near you. If you know someone goes to Starbucks every day, a refillable mug is a great idea, or a gift card or something. Gay people, as a group, are hard to classify since they're from every walk of life and are all individuals (just as the British are, but you gave us something to go on with them.)
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QUESTION:
Saint Valentine's Day Survey-Do you celebrate Valentine's Day?
*What is the best Valentine's Day gift?
a.chocolate/flowers
b.perfume/cologne
c.lingerie
d.dinner out
e.jewelry
f.other
*What's the most money you have spend on Valentine's Day?
a.[FAQ-QUESTION]-
b.-
c.-
d.-0
e.0+
*Who will you buy a gift for?
a.Parents
b.Significant other/crush
c.son/daughter
d.boss/co-worker
*What's your favorite 'Sweethearts Candy'' saying?
a.Be Mine
b.Be Good
c.Kiss Me
d.Sweet Talk
e.True Love
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ANSWER:
What is the best Valentine's Day gift?
a.chocolate/flowers
*What's the most money you have spend on Valentine's Day?
e.0+
*Who will you buy a gift for?
b.Significant other/crush
*What's your favorite 'Sweethearts Candy'' saying?
a.Be Mine
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QUESTION:
gift ideas for a friend/coworker/crush turning 20?
I have a friend at work who has a birthday this week and he is expecting me to do something for him since I did something for my boss on boss's day. I don't really know what I should do for him. I already know that I'm going to bake him a cake but I don't really know what else.
P.S.
I like this guy and he may like me...so I need something good!!!
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QUESTION:
How should I give this girl a gift?
I live opposite a university union, where a nice girl works....we've noticed each other, since late 2005.
It's difficult to come up with excuses to talk to her though. She was waiting for me to be more friendly to her....then she gave up.....but recently her boss told her not to charge my family "as they're VIPs", which doubtless sparked her interest again. She gets a bit nervous when talking to me now, which I interpret as a good sign! A couple of days ago, she spilled her cup of tea all over her reception desk, when I made a routine enquiry...which she mopped up with her tights....which she had taken off (she was using the gym beforehand I think). I said I'd buy her a new pair, which she smiled at but probably didn't take all that seriously. She used a pretty cheap pair, and I've just gone out and bought the most expensive pair in the city (£20, or US).
How should I give them to her, and what should I say?
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Slightly creepy. Take the tights back to the tights store and get your money back. Take the money and buy her flowers instead. Nice flowers, like roses or something. Go to a florist. Bring them to her and tell her you couldn't find tights, and the flowers will have to do, and then ask her to dinner. Worst thing that can happen is she'll say no, and then you won't have to waste time worrying about it anymore. Yay sensibility!
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I want to get a gift for my boss?
I'm going to Equine Affair tomorrow, and I'm going with my boss and the boarder. I have worked for my current boss for the past 4 years, she has a 30 year old quarter horse mare, a mini, and a mini Sicilian donkey. She has just about everything for her horses: Australian saddle, bridle, multiple halters and lead ropes, multiple saddle pads, multiple blankets, dozens of muck rakes, grooming stuff, saddle pads, etc. I want to get her something nice as she pays me a day to muck and I can ride her horse whenever I want. I'm thinking a new saddle pad, because the mare is starting to look a little swaybacked. Is there a saddle pad that would help with that? I know it can't be cured, but something to slow the process maybe? Or make the mare more comfortable, not that she is ever uncomfortable when riding. Or maybe a new bridle? The current one is nice but her horse doesn't really like having the bit put in, no mouth issues. What is a hackamore/ bitless bridle that gives the rider lots of control without making the horse uncomfortable if there is a novice rider?
I have been riding the boarder's 4 year old palomino filly. Her color is pink. I want to get a thank you gift because she lets me ride her so often. She is ridden western, she has all her tack. I have been thinking maybe a lunge line and whip, pink of course. She doesn't have one and I bet that there are days when neither of us have time to ride. She is a smooth ride, but she seems to trip herself up somehow. She has nothing around to trip over but when I ride her sometimes I feel her trip and lunge forward a bit. Is there some kind of boots or leg wraps to help that?
Please give me some ideas. I want to get them horsey gifts but I don't have any pictures of their horses. I am a good artist, but I want to get them something more useful than a drawing.
http://www.doversaddlery.com/dr.-cooks-beta-bitlessbridle/p/X1-12589/cn/1510/ any experience with this bridle? Tell me what you think!
http://www.doversaddlery.com/saratoga-custom-wool-riding-blanket/p/X1-24582/cn/1510/ Are these nice? What do they do? Are they to keep the rider's legs and the horse's hind end warm?
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For Xmas last year, my boss gave me a beautiful collage of photos of me riding her and my horses at shows and at her place. She made it a shutterfly.com. YOu can also make mugs, calanders, etc with your pictures. It is a really personal, but not super expensive gift.
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QUESTION:
You are expected to give a Christmas Gift to the most popular lady in our office!?
Finally the last day of work before Christmas. My employer is having an informal Holiday Party this afternoon where we are EXPECTED to exchange gifts with our boss and coworkers. I HATE IT! I don't like working for a company that forces us to spend money to buy gifts for people who we would not give the time of day to if we did not share the same employer.
What makes it extra bad is the expectation that we give a gift to the Office Manager. She is the queen bee in the office. The most charismatic, attractive, popular and powerful person in the office. You need to be on her good side or you will not prosper in your career at the company.
Tell us about how your office handles the exchange of gifts among coworkers?
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You can simply refuse to participate, as long as you do so without implying that there is anything wrong with those who enjoy it. My suggestion? Buy a nice box of candy and write a note on it saying "For Everyone, Love x!" and leave it at that.
I guarantee you are not the only one in your office who hates this ritual. The gift for the office manager is the most annoying, IMHO. She should certainly tell the entire staff that they are NOT to spend their hard-earned money on her.
In my office, we are not doing a gift exchange at all. I baked some cookies and brought them in for everyone to share, and I did buy my boss a gift-but not out of obligation. I ran across something I know he will really like and it was only about , so I said what the heck and picked it up.
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QUESTION:
who is looking for that perfect gag gift for halloween?
send a crazy message with a voodoo doll in a pimped out coffun, from www.hex-o-gram.com 40 messages to choose from, one day left to order...
go ahead hex someones halloween..its fun crazy and a gag gift what could be better than sending your boss the finger? along with the fake curse on a toe tag......? www.hex-o-gram.com
deadline 12 midnight california time
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QUESTION:
How good is my short story? Please rate out of 10 and give suggestions
The people of the tribe had long had a symbolic and harmonious connection with the land for it gave them food and sheltered them. Life was great for them and they were blissfully unaware of the troubles and corruption of western civilisation. They were also blissfully unaware of what would happen to them.
The man tossed and turned in his queen sized bed in his queen sized house. He could not sleep. I cannot fail… and will not fail. As CEO of the largest company in the world you would think money would be the least of his problems. Wrong.
A geographer, translator and plant expert had just failed their mission from headquarters. They must go to another tribe they agreed and continued to plough they’re way through the Amazon in the land rover.
It was the second day of her new job and already she had formed an instant dislike for her new boss. After having to give up volunteering at a recycling plant and various other environmental community service after the death of her husband, she was still getting over the shock she had received on her first day. Of course the advertisement did not mention that she would be working for a logging company. After all she was extremely passionate about the environment.
“Your late!’ he screamed, banging his fist on his mahogany desk. “Sorry sir replied the woman. The man hadn’t learnt to treat his personal assistants properly, even after having 30 of them. “Well maybe if you didn’t ride that wretched bicycle to work and got a lift in my hummer you wouldn’t be”. The man loved his new gas guzzling car he was even willing to share it. “Now, have you got any ideas on how we can solve our problem with natives not signing over their land in the Amazon, I have huge corporate clients breathing down my neck here about reaching this years quota”. “No sir she whimpered as she backed towards the door slowly. “Well put yourself to some use and get me a cup of coffee” he ordered. “Yes sir” she replied.
The group was tired after their 300 mile drive through the amazon. They knew they were close now as they could hear the bang of drums along with cheering. With a boot full of food and a contract for the natives to sign they knew what they had to do.
They were quite experienced at their job by now – going from tribe to tribe conning the natives into signing they’re territory away for logging rights. After all, rainforests (especially Amazonian ones) produce some very expensive and sought after products. And, when the land is clear it can be used for crops and grazing animals as the soil is rich in nutrients.
The natives raised their spears and arrows at the strangely coloured men as they pulled closer in a just as strange contraption. “Don’t fire!” yelled the translator in their native dialect, we come in peace and have gifts of peacekeeping” he continued. The natives accepted the gifts of food straight away, grabbed hold of them and took them to their leader. The translator explained politely to the leader about the offerings. “Do you want more?” asked the translator. “Because there is plenty more where we come from”. “Yes! Yes!” exclaimed the leader. “Well, said the translator “We need a small favour that I’m sure you will be able to give us”. The leader quietly listened. “Could we please cut down a few trees for we need them to build our houses among other things? In exchange we will give you all the food in our truck over there. Agreed?”. “Yes! Yes!” exclaimed the leader as he leapt up and hugged the men in agreement.
The man sighed in relief and smiled greedily at the great news he had just received from the Amazon. The woman entered. “I’m taking the afternoon off” he said whilst taking off his tie. “Clean up my desk” he ordered as he exited the room. The woman got straight to work but could not help herself to the papers on the man’s desk. She gasped and almost fainted while muttering ‘1, 000, 000 hectares of Amazon?!”
The apocalypse was here they thought hearing the roaring nearby. People yelled and screamed as one by one trees fell like dominoes. “They only said a few trees” exclaimed the leader. What had he done?! They ran and ran until there was nowhere left to go. They were left with a barren, desert like landscape.
A huge depression swept over the natives. They had lost the one thing they had valued most. If this landscape wasn’t hell, it certainly looked like it. Over the next few months many lost the will to live.
The woman wept and wept in front of her TV as images of deforestation in the Amazon played in front of her. Thoughts of realisation swept through her mind. The world is so corrupt these days with money and greed she thought. Cutting down beautiful rainforests and depriving natives only for money. However it was only then that it hit her – she had been corrupted as well. Working at a logging company… for money!?. What a sick world she said to herself as she switched off her TV, walked out onto her 21st floor balcony and jumped.
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QUESTION:
Can anyone help me before I kill myself?! (bday gift problem)?
I posted this question last night, but I'm gonna go for it again and see what other answers come up. I have been wracking my brain trying to think of a gift to get for my sis for her 29th bday (tomorrow). She is IMPOSSIBLE to shop for.
out of the question gifts(I have good reason for all of them):
Vouchers (eg. massage), Make up, hair products, clothes, charity gifts, tickets to theatres or concerts etc. dvd's,cd's, jewellery,art,asking her what she wants (she wont tell me),Chocolates, ipod or digital camera, books, photoalbum/framed photo,picnic etc. (I live in Ireland,lots of rain+dont really wanna spend the day with her),animals, accesories, framed portrait ...&I cant get her nothing either!!
What do you get the girl who has everything?She is quite high maintenance btw & doesn't really like joke gifts.She works very hard so doesn't have many hobbies...other than horseriding,salsa dancing and bossing me around.
I can spend anything less than approx €200. Can anyone help me???
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QUESTION:
Are these good gifts for my boyfriend?
He wouldn't give me any clues as to what he wanted or needed. So here are my ideas. He's kind of a metro guy, very clean and into his looks. Likes music and cars. If you can think of some other cool things I might not have though of feel free.
A Framed Authentic Woodstock ticket.
Hugo Boss sweatshirt. (He likes Hugo Boss)
New Electric shaver, his is a few years old and I want to get him a new one before his dies.
Aston Martin Diecast model car
Speed racer t-shirt (for a night shirt because he got 2 speeding tickets and 1 racing ticket in one day)
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QUESTION:
Should I still have my boss talk to her, after she gave me a gift?
I've worked with a co-worker for 5yrs and she's always trying to throw me under the bus. Making comments about me all the time, how much vacation I take, sick time, and my whereabouts during lunch are always being announced by her. She is always monitoring my time off!! I dont get it, and I've had enough of it. I finally talked to my boss about it yesterday and he will be talking to her soon. She is in her mid- 50's, and Im in my 30's so I've always respected her. She is ok when Im around her, but she usually ignores me, or doesnt greet me. I've never really understood what her problem is.
Well, this morning I walk in my office, and she's left a xmas gift on my desk.. great!! She seems to be in the xmas spirit and I know its only temporary. So, now what? my boss is to talk to her next week and Im now feeling like the A-HOLE.. although I shouldnt because I need this gossipping about me to STOP, and telling other departments about my vacation time, and when I take a sick day.. so unprofessional.
btw, I did talk to her about her tension towareds me directly 2yrs ago, and it obviously did no good.
Should I tell my boss to nevermind? or to move forward in speaking with her??..Also, I dont want to give her a gift back, but should I?
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QUESTION:
Is it wise to ask an old bf out to lunch for Valentine's Day? Would it be better to ask on a different day?
I like the guy as a person, but not as a bf. He knows we are not a couple - broke up 8 mo ago, only went together for a few weeks. He doesn't have a gf so I thought it might be nice to take him to lunch for Valentines Day as he won't have any better offers. I won't even really be buying his lunch as I have a gift certificate from my boss left over from Christmas. As long as I tell him it is just as friends I won't be leading him on, right? He might get a little peck on the cheek and a hug for a goodbye, but nothing I wouldn't do to my dad or brother. A normal person wouldn't see this as an attempt to rekindle what has died, would they? Thanks for your input.
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ANSWER:
For me it would depend on your relationship now? If you see him regularly as friends then it shouldn't be a problem, but if you don't speak so often and haven't seen each other for a while then maybe he will get the wrong idea.
Maybe say casually "hey, I have a lunch voucher that needs using if you have nothing else planned?" or something similar. Then it even tells him you're not paying without saying it in a nasty way.
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QUESTION:
I need advice! I used a stolen gift card that was not mine!?
I am a household employee. I work as a nanny, I watch this couples 3 children. I worked for them for awhile now, over 2 years. I love the family to death, I am I get annoyed sometimes, but they are such good ppl. I will try to explain what happened. I used a Walmart gift card that apperently was sent to his 7 year old son without me knowing that is belonged to him. I did not steal it either. I was leaving the house with my daughter and their little girl on our way to the mall to look around for a while. On my out of the drive way this pickup truck pulls into the driveway ahead of me so I have to stop. It was two guys, one looked like 17 and the other maybe 50 or so. They looked liek shady people so as they got out and the older man approached my window I was sorta reluctant to roll down the window, i locked the doors. The man had a bad country accent and missing many teeth, I was thinking oh no what do they want. The young guy stood back. The man said he was trying to teach his son a lesson (am guessing his son gets in trouble alot). I was like "ok?" He said he found a giftcard his son had in his room that did not belong to him and he was going to give it to his girlfriend. He handed me the card and on the back the boy had scribbled out the whole top half with black marker and wrote on it "I<3U megan" The boy said "I'm sorry". I told him it was not mine and i am not Megan (still confused) the father said it belongs to someone on this road. (there are only a few houses on the road) I am assuming he asked the others? Than he said sorry about taking your time i see you are leaving and have a nice day and then they left. The boy was driving. So I was still freaked out and just stuck it in my purse. i forgot all about it and 2 days later was cleaning the junk out of my purse and saw it. I called and told my bf he said thats strange. I held on to it. Later I went to party city and decided to pop in walmart next door to see if it was any good and they woman at customer serivce said it had 25$ on it! I was surprised, I called and told my bf and he said just use it, you dont know whos it is. And I used it. I regret it I should have told the woman and gave it to her. Anyways, I recently found out my boss's son never received a card or pakage that his gma sent him. And there was a gift card in it. And it was a walmart gift card. Now I am putting the whole thing together!! I think the letter was either delivered to the boys house or he took it from my boss's mail box!!! And the father was returning it to my boss!!!! I never put it together til now! My boss said he was going to walmart bc someone used it and he was trying to foundo out what happened to their mail! OMG I think the card was his sons birthday gift!! I knew it wasnt mine. I guess my bf convinced me finders keepers like if you find money somewhere I never thought it was my bosses bc they never told me how they got it!!! I regret using it! I want to tell my boss what happened but it has been a month and I am afraid he will think I took it or wonder y I waited. I honestly did nt know til now!! what should I do! I want to tell my concious is killing me, I feel terrible! I would never steal from them or anyone! Do you think I should tell or not???!! I should have asked my boss first it they had lost one. I will always for no on, I know I shouldnt have used it reguardless knowing it was not mine.
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ANSWER:
You did nothing wrong. Your conscience shouldn't be killing you because you had no idea that it would turn out to be your bosses sons card.
They have no way of finding out that it was you who used the card. Your boss doesn't have the number on the gift card to be able to track it.
If your conscience is still bothering you, purchase a gift card (it cannot be for .00 because you're not supposed to know how much was on the card) and give it to your boss telling him that you would like his son to have it because you feel bad that he didn't get his birthday present. This might cause suspicion though.
I would advise that an alternate option would be to tell your boss what happened BUT since over a month has passed since the incident, there's no way to explain the honest mistake without your boss thinking you had some sort of involvement in the theft.
In the unlikely event that your boss confronts you with proof that you used the card (the 17 year old boy and 50 year old man could have been your boss's friend sent to test you OR they might have followed up the visit and spoke to your boss to make sure they got the card), play dumb and claim you had no idea and never connected the two.
This can be tricky but you have to consider all angles. I'm sorry if I've perplexed you more. The short and easy answer would be to not say anything.
Good luck.
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QUESTION:
What would i call this "Gift" ???
I get feelings about things that are going to happen, Its usually after seeing a number or combination of numbers that stand out to me for no real reason but when these things happen, I get good luck with the numbers i seen/noticed.
An example of this was when i kept noticing the number ten on everything, And my mother went to by 5 raffle tickets and was given ten. Before she could hand them over to the shopkeep, I pulled her aside and said "Just hold on to them, Your holding a winning ticket.". I just had this strange feeling she was, And sure enough, Not only did she get a winning ticket, She got first prize. It has also happened with things like seeing the clock change from 3.32 to 3.33 the moment i look at it, And then telling my dad about it and that we would have good uck with threes. His boss called him 2 days later and said he had a 3 year contract for dad, Building 33 houses for the company.
Seriously, What would you call this "Gift"? Is there a proper name for it?
**Edit - Mum went to hand 5 of the tickets back for refund... Just realised what i wrote didnt make sense at first.
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QUESTION:
A get well baked gift for a 13 year old girl?
My husband has an office soccer team. One of his bosses allow his (the boss's) daughter to play with the team. She is thirteen, and actually is pretty good. Well, the other day they were playing barefoot. One of the guys accidentally slammed in to her ankle and broke both bones in her lower leg. Ouch, I know, 
Anyway, today the boys are getting a card for her and a soccer ball, but I wanted to bake something for her as well. However, it's been about 8 year since I was a 13 year old girl, lol. What kind of thing would she like? What is cool these days? I feel so old and dumb for not having a clue, but are cookies in, cupcakes, brownies? Any help would be great. I know this has to be one of the dumbest questions on here, but I want to make sure I make her something that is cool. I mean, I'm not going to sen over deviled eggs or something like that.
I think special brownie are out considering we live on a military base and both of her parents are Msgts, lol.
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ANSWER:
Any baked goods are delicious. Make whatever you are best at between like brownies and cupcakes or a cake. Actually I might go with some brownies or cookies if i were you. They seem most traditional, and like, a little girl can't do much with a full cake sitting by her bedside, and cupcakes are more for parties. So cookies or brownies. Whatever you can do better.
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QUESTION:
Administrative Day - Sexist?
I am a woman who owns a small business. Out of 15 employees, I have five women who work for me, and in my industry (which is very male-dominated) that's a good percentage.
Long story short, I have women who do the same type of work as men (from sales to warehouse labor to accounting and management). Every Administrative Day, I take the women in the office out to lunch as this has been the history of this company way before I came into ownership. We are surrounded by other tables of male bosses and their women employees, no matter their rank (clerical, secretarial, sales, accounting) in their company. Of the five I take to lunch, one woman told me she thinks it is a sexist set-aside day that is not for contemporary society.
I also find Administrative Day sexist. I have read the history of Administrative Day, and am unclear why (mostly) women are given a special day to go out for lunch or to get a gift.
I'm not being cheap...really. As I said, I take the ladies of the office out to lunch every year. I just find it odd that there is no day set-aside for male employees.
What do you think of Administrative Day? Is it relevant to today's culture?
I am particularly interested in hearing from other women business owners or executives.
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ANSWER:
Actually, the day USED to be called "Secretaries' Day", but, you know, secretaries are almost ALWAYS women. So, in order to make it more gender neutral, Secretaries were re-named ADMINISTRATIVE ASSISTANTS (get the title correct, if you really want to make your point work.)
And Administrative Assistants are male and female, so....if you are going to be politically correct, YOU need to hire some MEN as Administrative Assistants.
I don't think the holiday is for women, I think you have too many women in the position.
See how that works?
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QUESTION:
Husband's bosses sons wedding- what to do?
He has worked for same company for 12 years. We just got an invitation to his son's wedding. He doesn't know the son well and I have met him once. Neither of us has met his future wife.
Considering his boss just gave him a multiple K pay-cut, I am not really looking forward to having to go to this wedding and fork over cash for a gift. We don't even know them that well.
IF, we go I am thinking of just getting a Kohl's or Target gift certificate for about -. I am not going through that whole registry thing for certain.
If it were your wedding, would you be happy w/ a gift like that from someone you invited you don't know well at all?
Also, if we don't go, is a gift still expected. If it were not this bosses son, I wouldn't dream of going to anyone else's wedding that I didn't know any better than them and I definitely would not feel obligated to get a gift.
Also, they want and RSVP NOW for August even though it is a small affair. They know I have health issues and may not be able to go even if I wanted to and wouldn't know until the day of the wedding if I could or not. IF we must RSVP and say we can come, shouldn't they understand if I am not up to it due to health issues when the day comes. It is not just weddings, I NEVER know from one day to the next if I am going to be able to do anything, so it isn't personal.
As mentioned, it is a small home wedding and I am sure since they are young, they have MANY friends to invite. I can't help thinking we are being invited only as they are expecting a MAJOR gift.
I know, several questions but give me your input. Thanks.
Husband does not want to go and leaves ALL things like this to me.
Yes, we are both grateful he has a job still and it was just a pay cut, even though a huge one- never said we thought it was punishment- he is a highly valued employee- still, it put us in VERY tight financial sqeeze suddenly.
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ANSWER:
Often times with weddings, parents of the bride/groom like to invite *their* friends, especially if the parents are contributing financially. So maybe the boss considers your husband a friend. My Dad invited the families of the two guys that worked for him to my wedding.
Anyway, if you don't want to go, you don't have to go. Send your regrets, you don't have to say why, and if you want to still send the gift you mentioned, I think that would be a very nice gesture. If not, sending a card would still be very nice.
My guess is since they want a RSVP now, they either need strict numbers for planning and budgeting, or want to invite people on their "B" list (which may consist of the son's friends). They probably invited more people than they can host anyway, and are probably quietly hoping a certain number of people will respond "no". My guess your invite was probably just a courtesy, and they are hoping you'll send your regrets. If they are simply fishing for gifts, then they are greedy and that is *their* problem. Send your regrets, and a congratulations card when the time comes.
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QUESTION:
how to wish 50th birthday to boss?
hi all, its my boss's 50th b'day tomorrow. just wanted to check how to wish him and what can be a good gift for him.
pls reply soon.
i m asking for some message
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ANSWER:
You could just get him a birthday card, and write inside something like "Happy birthday, you're a great boss, I hope you have a wonderful day."
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QUESTION:
My new supervisor is telling all the managers he wants to fire me for not working 8hrs/day, I have OVER time!?
My old boss gave me excellent, above average reviews. I am good at my job and quick. My new supervisor is telling managers I am not putting in my 8 hours a day and wants to fire me. However, they monitor us and he keeps being told that I put in over time!
So, that's been going on for two years!
He is hurting my reputation and his behavior (not inviting me to meetings, yelling, etc..)is hindering my job performance at work.
He picks on little insignificant slip ups I might make (to his many huge ones) and starts raising his voice at me so others can hear, making it give the impression that I am a bad employee.
EVERYTHING the department uses I created -from the documentation to the automations! I even TRAINED HIM and he asks me questions saying "I don't know how to do this, can you do it and I'll send it out " so it looks like his work when it's mine!
He is buddy buddy with a lot of people in high places and has the gift of gab. I am an introvert and quiet and shy. This gives him an advantage.
Lately, since he can't get me for not working full days, he just looks at me with disgust and doesn't talk to me at all.
I am a multi-tasker and this he doesn't understand either because he is a one thing at a time person.
If he tells me to work on something. I will start the process (I am in computers and alot of stuff is automated, so I can start something and move n to something else while that is running) and then do something else.
He takes that as I am not "doing" what he said to do that was the TOP priority at the time, but I AM! He won't tell me thiw, he'll just sit there angry about it seething, then he'll blow up and say "I said to do this!" I'll respond it is running. He just doesn't get that I am a multi-tasker and can get a lot done at once.
He also doesn't like that I automated a lot of the departments work, saving the company 40hours a week. He says (SHhh don't tell anyone.)
Do you think I have a case for HR? Should I request a transfer to a different department out of a "personality conflict"?
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ANSWER:
You need a new job. Your boss doesn't appear to like you, and you CERTAINLY don't like or give the proper respect to HIM.
Move on, nothing good will come of this. If you are such a wonderful employee, other companies will jump at the chance to hire you.
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QUESTION:
I need advice with friends..if youre good with this stuff,please help?
okay I'm normally not the type to be self-loathing but my life is crap right now. I have absolutely nobody to turn to. please help me with whatever advice you have to offer
im a junior in highschool. the last time I actually spent time outside of school with any close friends goes back to August during summer break.. My friend, lets call her "Sarah" cheated on her boyfriend BIG TIME at a party. Sarah was pretty much the boss and the one in charge within my circle of friends. secretly, without knowing, we each got a phonecall from her boyfriend and ratted her out to him. I told him because it was plain out wrong. she forgave everyone EXCEPT me.
i started out the school year without any group of friends. Sarah would not give me a reason for why she didnt want to speak to me anymore. the rest sided with her, regardless to how extremely close I was with them. it was painful to ignore them, but i sat with them anyway for one person..
I have no other close friends besides my only best friend; we'll call her "Lara". Each day at lunch I would sit at the groups table and only talk to Lara..she didnt mind. but without her there I couldnt sit there ( at my school, you have to be a senior to leave for lunch) Lara knew i spent my weekends alone,but chose to make plans with them.
After 4 months of this (no friends,no weekend plans) Lara got into a fight with Sarah and her followers over the gift trading tradition called "Secret Santa".. Lara finally stood up to Sarah,telling her that shes sick of her bossing everyone around with things like this. and that caused everyone to go against Lara.
Even though Lara ignored me and avoided making plans with me, I still let her use me as her backup. Although Lara was obviously MISERABLE without them,I was happy to finally have someone to relate to and spend time outside of school . I guess I got used to having this kind of company.
****this is why i need your help***
A week prior to Wednesday (today) we planned to cut the last few periods of class since it would be the last day before break. and then today, she tells me shes leaving early at around 12 and to find someone else to sit with (theres nobody obviously) I call my mom and tell her to come and get me at 11. i was pissed she kind of bailed out but couldnt handle being at school any longer...
in class, with one of the followers who actually doesnt hate me "Rachel" gives me a wrapped jewelry box and asked me to give it to Lara...Rachel was Lara's secret santa..i was so tempted not to give it to Lara. once i gave her that gift, everything would be over and back to how it was. I gave her the box, it was a tiffany bracelet= $$$$. Lara showed everyone, and they all said to her, "Wow Rachel is the best..you bettter go back to them"
I was really upset...no matter how awkward Lara claimed it was. After she thanked Rachel, she came back and claimed it to be uncomfortable for her since she hasnt spoken to her in weeks. but my eyes filled with tears and I escaped from class without Lara noticing. Everything was falling apart again and I had no control over it. I just dont fit in with my school, no matter how easily Lara gets dazzled by expensive gifts, I still think she was the most like me. she saw me come back with swollen eyes..because i was upset and told her what i thought, shes mad at me now
we planned to spend new years together, whether it was at a a party or alone..
her last words to me today were "have a good break"
i know i shouldnt depend on one friend but you dont know HOW HARD it is to find someone just lke you. and ive grown up with my old friends,and now that i dont have them, ive missed out on growing up with other friends outside my circle. i know im not the only one out there like this..im not self-centered..
IM JUST TIRED OF BEING ALONE. i dont know if i can handle this any longer. i know that im better than my old friends and they dont deserve my apology. i cant lower myself. but i feel that if i want to SURVIVE my final years in highschool,i might have no choice
please help me, from the bottom of my heart, i need someone to give me any type of advice.
ill take anything. thank you for your time.
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ANSWER:
Wow, Loooong post. Okay, so I had a problem similar to yours when I was in high school. People just didn't really talk to me and I was quiet. There is one important thing I wish I knew in high school..this is not the end. There is a bigger world out there..bigger than high school and bigger than high school friends. I have graduated in 2005 and I still live in the same town..you know how many people I auctually see or talk to that I graduated with? Maybe like 3 or 4. Remember too that there are also other schools around. If you go shopping by yourself, maybe you can tell a girl that you like her shoes and ask where she got them and she may be in another school and have a circle of friends you can hang out with. Get out and show those girls that you don't need them. You need to drop "Laura," you shouldn't let people use you..You are SO MUCH BETTER THAN THAT AND THOSE MEAN GIRLS. I know high school is tough, but you will make it. Good luck.
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QUESTION:
My boss stole my Christmas gift!!?
Hi all
I work at a daycare , this being the season some parents who choose to are bringing in presents for the daycare staff ..
Today a parent asked me how I liked my candy ..
I innocently said .. what candy ?
she told me she sent it a few days ago and said she had a conformation that it was delivered ..
My boss was out and i didn't have time to ask ,
I got home and called my coworker who's worked for my boss for years ,
i told her and her answer is .. SHE DID IT AGAIN ??
Apparently the mother sends a huge tin of candy ( mini size bars i was told )
and my boss takes all the Chocolate and the good candy out with out telling anyone . and then brings all the rest down and tells the staff to help them self's ..
My co worker and I are of the opinion that if it's for the whole staff of only 4 who work there ..
As soon as it comes in , we should be able to divide it or be giving baggies and are allowed to take what we like
So Friends..
Do you agree ?
Should we take our fair share ?
or because she is the owner/boss should she get first and best dibs ?
am i over reacting or am my co worker and I just in being slightly ticked ?
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QUESTION:
Should I fire my assistant?
I have a small law office in upstate NY. My assistant "M" began working for me 1 year ago. Her scheduled work hours are M-F, 8-5. She has a BA but no prior experience (first job out of college). She earns 30k salary w/ health and bonuses (~3k/year). I try to be a good boss -- I am flexible with scheduling for appointments etc. and have given her almost two weeks of paid time off IN ADDITION TO paid major holidays.
On some days, at least early on, M went well above and beyond. She worked late, came in early etc. Within the past 6 months, her performance and attitude have taken a nose dive. She has missed at least one day/month on account of sickness and is regularly (3+ times/week) at least 15 minutes late. She has not only stopped staying late, but now regularly leaves 5+ minutes early and often begins putting on her coat etc. well before 5pm. She regularly complains to me and co-workers about issues such as annoying clients, lack of ventilation, it being "too nice outside" to work etc.
Last week she asked if she could come in late the following Monday because she wanted to "sleep in" on her birthday. When I politely declined, she developed an attitude. While I did remember "Administrative Assistant's Day", (she and others got gift certificates and lunch at a country club) I must admit that I subsequently forgot her birthday. She has developed an even greater attitude since then. She brought in all of the birthday cards she was sent (to her home address) and posted them on the wall above her desk. A non-so-subtle protest of my oversight?
Her behaviors, while somewhat childish and unprofessional, are not egregious. She's not stealing, insubordinate, etc. That being said, given the current state of our economy, I feel that she should be grateful to have an "entry level" job which pays 30k ( the average attorney in my area starts at 45-50k, many earn less in their first few years) with fully paid health and bonuses. I guess what I'm saying is that, if it were a "behavior" that I had issue with, I would feel compelled to sit her down and discuss ways to improve her performance. In this instance, I feel that this is more of an "attitude" problem that can't really be corrected with a consultation.
Should I try to reason with her -- or simply let her go?
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ANSWER:
By your account she is doing her job, and doing it to your satisfaction, and the main issues you identified seem to be relatively minor. I would suggest you have that chat with her, but rather than talking about her attitude I'd suggest that you discuss what she does in a day, and whether it challenges her. You noted that initially she came in early and worked hard, but a year later you're seeing a decline in her performance. This young lady has brains, enough to earn a B.A. degree, which puts her in roughly the top 16 to 20% of the population (having a Bachelor's degree).
To put it bluntly she is probably bored, and so occupies herself with "make-work" (like putting up cards ... I don't think this was getting at you, but rather a symptom of boredom), and sees it as reasonable to leave a few minutes early since she's done all that was expected of her.
The solution I'd suggest is to have a chat with her and talk to her about the office, what she does, what she thinks could be improved, and what else she thinks she's qualified to do. She might have some ideas straight away, but ask her to put them on paper and submit them to you for consideration. Give her a week or so to mull this over, and treat it as a project. You might get some good suggestions, but most importantly you'll get some idea of how she's currently being utilised, and where she thinks she can expand to.
If she shows an interest in taking on additional responsibilities then I'd suggest that this shows that she is just bored.
If the claims she's too busy or overworked then it would be a good time to raise the leaving early and arriving late.
You sound worried about this situation. While that is a credit to you as a human being I'd also suggest that you try to relax a little more. If you're tense going into the "chat" then that'll resonate with her and she'll get nervous and be less communicative, so:
- Schedule the "chat" when you have plenty of time, you don't want to rush it. If you think you need 15 minutes then clear 30.
- Tell her about the chat minutes before, not hours, this will make it seem casual, unplanned and less intimidating.
- Take a few minutes before the chat to clear your head of whatever cases you're thinking about, and to just relax. Approach the meeting with a clean slate.
I know you're probably very busy, but think about it this way, a new employee takes approximately 6 months before they're operating efficiently, before that they're operating on about 50% efficiency (perhaps a little higher if they have industry-specific experience). You could take 40 minutes to chat with her, or put up with a new assistant that you have to break-in for six months. I'd say that the 40 minutes is a good investment.
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QUESTION:
Are good writers talented or genius' of hard work? +BQ?
In all honesty, I have a friend who has been spouting out masterpieces of beautiful, intriguing prose ever since she started writing, and yet I've seen writers who have been practicing for years and cannot come anywhere close to her level. While I don't particularly envy her, since the years have allowed me to catch up to her level (well...almost), up till now I've always thought of writing as a gift - just like how musical talent can be innate. One can have it, or they can work hard to attain a semblance of it. What do you think?
Will there be some people who will never be able to attain that level of brilliance?
BQ's
1. I came up with this analogy once, which is fabulous if I do say so myself (Giving myself an ego-boost is a wonderful way to start the day)
Writing is akin to playing with a set of toys. Writing fan-fiction is playing with the toys that have already been created by other Authors, and writing original fiction is playing with toys that you took the hard work to create and sculpt yourself. I don't see anything wrong with playing with someone else's toys once in a while, if they give their permission.(I mean, we all find other peoples' toys interesting, right?)
On that line of thought, have you ever written fanfiction? What do you think of it? Can you come up with a better analogy?
2. What feelings are aroused when you read back on your older pieces? Or the earlier pages of your current work? (Lets hope it isn't 'absolute self-loathing')
3. Be honest. Have you ever wished that your writing would attain some level of fame? I get a little preachy about fame and natural love for writing, but truth is, I really do want others to love my work too...you?
4. Who is a person/type of person that you would hold in complete and utter contempt and not feel guilty in the least about it?
5. What genre do you TEND to write in, and why? What is it about this Genre that attracts you?(Any other writers who tilt towards comedy...?)
6. Vincent, the prince/boss of some organisation/family or other is coming home, after a long, 3 year battle of some sort to confess his love to a childhood friend of his, named Serah. Write me a scene to show how you'd handle this situation in your writing style.
7. Have you ever fallen in love with a fictional character? (This otaku, Chae, is going to confess, in embarrassment, that she once fell for Itachi Uchiha from the anime series 'Naruto'. She does not wish to discuss these dark times with anyone, so please do not message her about it)
xxChae (is eating gummy cola bottles while squatting on a stool in her favourite hoodie, you?)
I wonder who is going around and thumbing down perfectly good answers. As a result I've been thumbing everything up ;D
@ Gir: My analogy? It came once during a conversation with a friend. He was questioning the point of writing fanfiction and I told him: 'there's nothing wrong with taking a break from hard work and playing with other people's toys, right?'
;D And thus, an analogy is borne
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ANSWER:
It's all to do with approach, attitude and above all, honesty. An honest writer is a great writer. A writer who sits there writing because they want to make money or just writing sensational scenes because that's what they think will shock there readers, will produce lackluster work. Write about something that really matters to you, and don't be afraid to break the rules of writing.
Talent and hard work are excellent bedfellows and there is no way around this, a writers’ talent alone will not get a novel finished.
BQ:
1. Writing makes you the god of your own kingdom; you create, you rule, you judge and you destroy.
2. Embarrassment/pity, because I once thought it was brilliant.
3. It would be nice if someone read it and liked it of course, but fame is something I'd loath more than anything.
4. Those who believe there is such a thing as an idiot. There is no such thing and anyone who believes differently deserves everything they get.
5. Horror/suspense/crime/magical realism.
6. I'll pass on that
7. No.
Wanderer is drinking red bull and is about to start his writing session for the day.
Thanks for the great Q's sorry about number 6.
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QUESTION:
What do you think of my story?
This is the first chapter. I was wondering what people thought of it and if it is even worth continueing.
I stared at the pale white face that reflected in the mirror. Another day.
"Annah!" My mother called from downstairs where she was making my lunch in the kitchen. "Are you going to be late for your bus?"
I left the bathroom and headed down the stairs. I closed my eyes. "No." I said as I approached her. "It's 10 minutes late."
My name is Annah Roosevelt. I am 16 years old. But I am different from any teenager you have ever met.
"How’s work looking today?" My mother asked.
I closed my eyes and a picture suddenly appeared. "Well, boss is in a bad mood. You'll have to stay 3 hours late too. By the way, put some gas in your car unless you plan on breaking down. Which…you have been." I informed her.
I’d never given much thought to my ability to see the future and read minds. I guess, maybe I am unique.
She frowned. "Not a good day?" She asked.
"I wouldn't say that." I lied.
Liar. My mother thought as if reading my thoughts.
"Ok, it might get a little hard." I admitted.
She frowned again.
"I'll make myself some dinner." I told her.
"Are you sure?" She asked.
"Yes." I closed my eyes. "Macaroni is on the menu."
She laughed. "Ok. Will you have a good day at school?"
I closed my eyes. I saw me at school talking to Nick, my former best friend since I’ve been 8. But first period, I saw nothing.
I opened my eyes. I squeezed them shut again. Still, nothing.
"Something wrong?" My mother asked.
"I can't…see." I worried.
"Maybe your sick." She suggested. A sensible suggestion. Whenever I am sick, I can’t see the future. I can still read minds but the future just disappears…for me.
“No.” I disagreed. “I can see everything but 1st period.”
I hope nothing’s wrong. She thought.
"Me too." I hoped.
"Have a good day.” She called as I walked out the door.
“I’ll try.” I lied.
I didn’t bother with trying to have ‘good’ days anymore. Because my days were not particularly ‘good’ when the thoughts of others rang in my head like wind chimes. I don’t want to be a freak. If I’d had a choice, I would have a normal life. The problem is, I didn’t have a choice. I inherited this ‘gift’ from my father. Only the mind reading was supposed to wear off when i turned 8. The problem is, it never did.
When I was 7 years old, my mother, my father, and I lived on a small farm in Georgia. One day I was playing in a field. Little did I know that this field belonged to a witch. She didn’t like anyone on her land. She got angry and put my father under a terrible sickness.
He died 3 days later. I was terribly angry. My father was my best friend. I desperately wanted to know who had done this terrible thing. I opened my mind to anyone’s thoughts. I heard the witches. I knew what she had done.
I put on my rain boots and trotted through the mud to her old creaky house. I pounded on the door with my fist. She opened the door. “Why did you do this to my father?” I screamed.
“I’m sure I don’t know what you mean.” She replied.
But I read her mind. I saw the terrible curse she put upon him. “Don’t lie.” I confronted. “You’re a witch!”
“How on earth do you know this, child?” She asked.
I didn’t answer her. I just stared angrily at her though the pouring rain.
Suddenly, she gasped. “You’re one of them.” She claimed. Her eyes were the size of the moon.
“One of what?” I asked, confused.
“The mind intruders.” She stated.
I snorted, “I’m not a mind intruder; I’m a mind reader.” I was so angry. I tried to read her mind but I couldn’t with all the anger blocking the way.
Suddenly she grabbed me, pulling me into her house. She opened a door in her floor. She dragged me down a long, wooden ladder. She threw me on the hard dirt floor. She ran back up the ladder and pulled it out so I could not get out.
She left me down there for what seemed like days. But it was only a couple of hours. I closed my eyes trying to see when she’d let me out.
But I couldn’t see a thing because she kept changing her mind.
The future is subjective to me. When someone changes there mind, the future changes and since she kept changing hers, I could see nothing.
And with my anger, I couldn’t read her mind. I was helpless, powerless, weak.
Finally after what seemed like an eternity, she came down. I huddled in a corner hugging my legs.
“Let me go.” I demanded.
“I will…” She said. I began to smile, then she said, “After, I conduct some spells.”
“What spells?” I questioned. She smiled a bit. It was an evil grin. Like a mountain lion ready to attack its prey.
“You are a mind reader. This ability will wear off with 8 years of age. Correct?” She asked.
I replied with only silence.
“Ah, I ‘m right, aren’t I?” She continued to ask.
Again, I refused to answer.
“I thought so.” She said.
She raised her hands and recited t
if there's anything you think i could add or improve on, please let me know.
thank youu !
by the way, any good titles?
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QUESTION:
what do you think of this? is there anything i can improve on? how should i continue the story?
I stared at the pale white face that reflected in the mirror. Another day.
"Annah!" My mother called from downstairs where she was making my lunch in the kitchen. "Are you going to be late for your bus?"
I left the bathroom and went downstairs. "No." I said as i approached her. "It's 10 minutes late."
Do you want chips in your lunch? I heard. "No." I answered her thoughts.
My name is Annah Roosevelt. I am 16 years old. But i am different from any teenager you have ever met. I am phsycic. I can also read minds.
I Am unique, yes. But on the outside i look just like you. I'm pale. My hair is aburn and long and curly. I'm tall and quite thin i'll admit. But on the inside i am a complicated splender of madness.
"Hows work looking today?" My mother asked. I closed my eyes and a picture suddenly appeared. "Well, boss is in a bad mood. You'll have to stay 3 hours late too. By the way, put some gas in your car unless you plan on breaking down which you have been until now." I informed her.
She frowned. "Not a good day?" She asked. "I wouldn't say that." I lied.
Liar. My mother thought. "Ok, you might be a little frustrated." I admited.
She frowned again. "I'll make myself some dinner." I told.
"Are you sure?" She asked.
"Yes." I closed my eyes. "Maccorine is on the menu."
She laughed. "Ok well you have a good day at school."
I closed my eyes. But i could not see anything. I opened them and tried again squeezing them as tight as i could but still, nothing.
"Something wrong?" My mother asked.
"I can't see anything." I worried.
"Maybe your sick." She suggested. i hope nothing's wrong. She thought.
"Me too." I hoped. Whenever i get sick i can't see anything for long periods of time.
"I'll try to have a good day." I lied.
My mother thinks i am this happy person. But i'm not. I don't want to be this way. I inheirited this 'gift' from my father who died when i was 7. I didn't have a choice. I didn't choose this.
Goodbye. She thought, not bothering to say aloud.
On the bus, i thought about why i couldn't see anything. I could see my mother's future but not mine. I didn't understand.
The buzzing of voices in my head grew louder as i approached school and the rush of thoughts inside my head flowed like a river as i tried to block them out.
Where is he? Everyone seemed to be thinking. Where is who? Who were they talking about? I closed my eyes. Nothing.
"Where is he?" Nick said to me.
Nick has been my best friend since i've been 5. We've been nieghbors for that long.
"Where is WHO?" I asked.
"You mean, you don't know?" He was stunned. "There's a new kid at school, Annah."
"There is? I can't see anything."
Nick is the only one who knows my 'secret' besides my family.
"Your sick." He assumed.
"I'm not." I urged. I closed my eyes and tried to see Nick's future.
I saw him playing baseball tonight. His signature sport.
I opened my eyes.
"What did you see?" He wondered.
"Your playing a game tonight." I informed.
"Wow. So you can see my future, but not yours?" He asked gather information.
I closed my eyes. I saw myself making maccoronie tonight like i'd planned.
"I'm making maccoronie tonight for dinner." I said.
"So your not sick." He claimed. Can you read my mind? He thought.
"Yes." I answered.
The bell rang. "We'll figure it out." He said.
"I wish i could confirm that for you." I said closing my eyes.
Nothing.
First period. I was by myself. No one wanted to sit with me. I don't blame them. I'm a freak. None of them know my secret. All they know is there's something about me that seems a little fishy.
"Did you hear?" Gossiped one of the two girls behind me. "About the new kid?" Said the other one. "Yeah." The first girl replied. "I hear he's cute." Said the other. With those crooked teeth he won't be interested. The first girl thought.
An unfarmiliar face walked in. I was sure he was the new kid. I read the teacher's mind So this is him, Garret Thompson. He doesn't look like a very successful fellow.
Garret Thompson. What an ordinary name. His eyes were as big as sand dollars. He was wearing a plain black t-shirt and faded jeans.
I tried to read his mind. Nothing. Silence. I didn't understand.
i don't know how to continue the story.
help?
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ANSWER:
Skip to another time of the day, that the audience knows about and have her pondering.
It'd be cool if you could have him have some type of power too telekenisis or what not >8D
but I agree that you move in on the 'inherited physic' thing a little to quickly, I had to just accepts the facts without backup first to keep moving in the story... its kinda like forcing the reader to swallow without mentally chewing it first... a tad unpleasant but yours is not as unpleasant as it sounds xD You pulled it off pretty gracefully despite the tactics ungraceful nature x)
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QUESTION:
What do you think about what this teacher has to say after working for years in an all black school?
I read a book by an expatriate Rhodesian who visited Zimbabwe not too many years ago. Traveling with a companion, she stopped at a store along the highway. A black man materialized next to her car window. “Job, boss, (I) work good, boss,” he pleaded. “You give job.”
“What happened to your old job?” the expatriate white asked.
The black man replied in the straightforward manner of his race: “We drove out the whites. No more jobs. You give job.”
At some level, my students understand the same thing. One day I asked the bored, black faces staring back at me. “What would happen if all the white people in America disappeared tomorrow?”
“We screwed,” a young, pitch-black boy screamed back. The rest of the blacks laughed.
I have had children tell me to my face as they struggled with an assignment. “I cain’t do dis,” Mr. Jackson. “I black.”
The point is that human beings are not always rational. It is in the black man’s interest to have whites in Zimbabwe but he drives them out and starves. Most whites do not think black Americans could ever do anything so irrational. They see blacks on television smiling, fighting evil whites, embodying white values. But the real black is not on television, and you pull your purse closer when you see him, and you lock the car doors when he swaggers by with his pants hanging down almost to his knees.
For those of you with children, better a smaller house in a white district than a fancy one near a black school. Much better an older car than your most precious jewels cast into a school where they will be a minority.
I have been in parent-teacher conferences that broke my heart: the child pleading with his parents to take him out of school; the parents convinced their child’s fears are groundless. If you love your child, show her you care — not by giving her fancy vacations or a car, but making her innocent years safe and happy. Give her the gift of a white school.
Of course, even the whitest schools are riddled with liberalism. There is only one way to educate your children in a way that does not poison their minds. If at all possible, home school your children. Educate them yourself.
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ANSWER:
I started my career teaching high school in the South Bronx. Some of my students have gone on to complete graduate school and some have not. It's a complex situation.
I doubt the veracity of this quote. I googled it and it has no source. However, this makes no mention of the horrid political situation in Zimbabwe under Mugabe.
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QUESTION:
Aquarius Male give Scorpio Ex Female, Birthday gift. Long Details.?
Alright, well. Me (Aquarius Feb. 12) and my ex girlfriend (Scorpio Oct. 28) broke up about 5 weeks ago.
We broke up on good terms. She told me that she wanted to focus on College and was not ready for a relationship at this time in her life and that she wanted to be friends and in the future if we were still interested we could "hook up" again.
At first...Yes, at first...(I screwed up.) I told her that I understood and I respected her decision to focus on College and her education and that I respect her and I told her that I admired her maturity and I will always be here for her if she ever has a problem or needs someone to talk to.
Well, after about two days. I don't know what came over me. I panicked and got clingy I guess. I basically confessed my love to her...I showed her my weak side. She told me I was making her feel bad. I told her I was sorry I was making her feel that way.
To top things off. One of (her/my) friends. Went behind my back and told her "Why did you break up?" and "Why did you do that to him?".
She texted me and told me "Thanks for making me look like a b-tch." Basically she is probably mad at me, most likely is holding a grudge. Probably will for a while. Right now I am just playing the waiting game...=/
I text her back and told her that I didn't know what she meant? I told her that I didn't know why she said this and that she hasn't acted like a b---h. Which was true. I was clueless at to why she said that.
She didn't respond back...I was pretty pissed and bummed that both of our so called friend would make it their problem.
A little bit of background info on me and her. When I first met her she was the quite type, didn't really talk to people. She had talked to me once or twice. Then one day I asked her if she wanted to be boyfriend and girlfriend. She is Chinese I am Caucasian/Hispanic. She said yes, I took it very slow because we both were our firsts.
She would come over to my house many times and we would play games and hangout. I went over to her house too and played games and help her set up her Xbox Live, Movies, 1 year Anniversary Dinner. She is the "tom-boy" type. She has all the characteristics of a Scorpio: She liked to be the boss, I didn't mind. She would poke fun at me when she was bored, I didn't mind.
Because I knew all of that coming from her meant that she cared. She would tell me her problems and talk to me. We would both meet each other in the morning like two hours before School started and hang out and talk in the school parking lot.
I just want to know if I should send her a Hand Drawn/Written Birthday card like I did for her first birthday. I was just going to send her a card saying Happy birthday, Hope you have a great birthday. With her favorite video game character drawn on the outside with a present on the outside.
with a Music CD inside of it with this song on it.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OWN8ZGuTjNM
I just wanted to know if it is a good idea to send her a birthday card? Or should I just move on for now and try to reignite things with her in the future, if possible.
Thank you for any Advice and help.
Sorry for all the bad grammar as well.
I'm very tired right now...College...-_-
I'm 18 and she is going to be 18. Yes, I know we are both still pretty young.
Alright, thanks a lot for the information.
advice* i mean.
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QUESTION:
How to lead a successful married life? What are tips you will provide the one who is going to get married?
Share your views :
My tips to newly married or to those who are going to get married:
My tips: Do’s & Don’ts
Expectations lead to miseries in life. Many get married to get something from their partner than what they offer.
You should know what they do, where they go etc:
Both partners should have freedom to lead their life. One partner controlling another leads to misunderstanding. One partner bossing over other leads to irritation.
You should know fully about your partner:
Sorry leave them alone. Don’t become his parent or school teacher. You don’t have to know them fully.
There should be no secrets between partners:
Sorry there will be some or the other secrets, don’t try to dig them. Every person has secrets which he cannot share with his partner.
You should communicate well and share all your feelings:
Please leave them alone. They are not doing counseling. They have married you to lead a happy life, not to hear your stories.
He / She should make me happy:
This is totally wrong. You should make your partner happy.
Don’t suspect your partner. The day you suspect your partner, and then you are at fault. You are not confident of yourself. You are not giving them enough enjoyment, hence you suspect.
Marriage is not physical attraction:
Don’t take marriage and your partner for granted. Make your self fit and always work towards making yourself beautiful
Don’t keep on making comments on the looks of your partner. The way you take care of your self and make yourself should make them feel guilty.
Some one wrote to me : My husband will look at me in 20 years and say" your just a beautiful now as you were when we first got married"
You are expecting your husband to lie to you. You will never be as beautiful as you were 20 years before. On his own if he says “today you look beautiful”, that means he loves your soul.
Don’t force them to do anything. Don’t expect complements from them. Don’t keep on asking them “How do I look today”.
Boys marry a girl thinking that she will replace their mother and take care of them. Girls think that he will replace their dad, project them, buy them gifts and pamper them all the time. This is totally a wrong concept. You are going to have a life partner, a friend with whom you will adjust and live. Married life is always give & take.
Don’t make your children only love you, your parents and your relatives.
Don’t expect your partner to only learn your culture, your life style. You should also learn her culture and life style.
Don’t push your partner to earn more. Don’t push your partner decorate the house always to your wish.
Expect the least. Today’s attractive partner would not be attractive tomorrow. Your deeds of today would make you look beautiful tomorrow. Hence your first few years of marriage is very important. How good you are to your partner in those years, makes the foundation for the rest of life.
What offer for your partner is more important than what you get from your partner.
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ANSWER:
I've already talked for successful & satisfied happy married life in detail. You can read at my profile in similar questions. Be God fearing, positive, polite, sincere to loving relation, sweet & soft in words & actions both, tolerant in all non serious matters, co-operative & helpful in almost all matters. Don't ridicule, insult, snub, scold, taunt, fight, speak loudly & too much particularly in front of outsiders(i.e., in public) & at home too. Don't try to find fault with the spouse which is against basic spirit & passion of marriage concept itself. Explain the difference between you both with love. Discuss anything you want openly in civilised manner. Never use abusive language. Try to learn new things from each other. Divide properly the household works & exchange responsibilities too time to time say after 15 or 30 days to learn. Both must learn saving, budget planning continuously. Go for sightseeing weekly or fortnightly or monthly to some beautiful romantic places & talk at secluded places where your spouse can say what is there in one's heart. Listen patiently feelings, likes, dislikes, genuine desires & demands of the life partner & try to improve continuously. Learn new things you can. Create innovations & changes in daily activities for sustaining interest. Allot some fixed minimum time for entertainment daily. Love each other daily on a soft bed at home on regular basis as compulsory routine say during 9.00 - 9.30 pm first by taking off all clothes from the bodies except underwear & panty & then kiss , smooch, hug ,rub & press different parts of the body of the partner. This reduces amount of lactive acid in muscles, makes both fitter, happier & more enthusiastic. Deep love is most essential part of a couple's life. Make bodies of both slim & strong. Have safe sex regularly if not daily reaching orgasm like passion. Take warm milk with pure honey dissolved in that every time half an hour before having sex. If there is sudden unforeseen tension, have more sexual intercourses. Sex is right of both, very important for strongest possible relation between the two & from health point of view. So, never hesitate in having sex & fully co-operate immediately without fail with the partner if one demands so. Don't disclose private matters & secrets of you both to any third person at all in any matter. Respect each other & relatives of both as much as you can. Never go berserk in positive, negative or tension prone matters. Be open minded & always behave like a gentleman. Take care of healths of both with top priority. These are all practical points well tried, tested & found to be very useful.
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QUESTION:
Is my first draft good?
Sorry if it's too long. Just read the first 2-3 paragraph if it's ok. I know my grammar is bad.
The smile on dad’s face quickly vanished as he lifted another racket with great difficulty. I glanced at the piece of metal in my hands and somehow felt a small fraction of the pain he was enduring. My dad became older by the day; more wrinkles appeared on his forehead and his eyes carried a great sorrow and loneliness that no one could ever come to understand. Those eyes had witnessed the miscarriages of justice and the cruelty of this world for nearly half of the century. All my life, my father’s back was the only thing kept me from harm; in my eyes, he was the biggest and strongest man in the world. Yet if anyone would look at him and judge, what they saw was an old and decrepit man, weaving rackets to pull his family through.
The last hope was stripped away from my father when mom left us six years ago to come to America. He raised me alone but never complains. Dad said the greatest gift that God had given him was me. He always displayed a cheerful and positive attitude regardless of the circumstances we were in. Those smiles were to cover up the misery within his heart without mom.
Our situation degenerated when dad lost his job and our home was taken away by the greedy Vietnamese communists. We had no choice but to rent a small house in a squalid community. A person told me once that “the image of an eight year old boy working to help his dad earn money could break anyone’s heart”. Dad felt bad because I had to go to work when school is still my mandatory. To him, nothing was more painful than making his son sacrifice his childhood and not be able to live a life like other children.
Vietnamese New Year was close but we did not have enough money to buy food to celebrate the holiday. “How could we?” I thought dolefully. Two dollars for ten hours of working everyday cannot buy anything. Whenever dad gave me a nickel to buy lunch at school, a sick feeling would crush my heart if I were to receive the money. How could I be carefree to eat while knowing that my father worked desperately and starved himself to give me this food?
During the critical time, we were fortunate to be hired by a generous woman; our job was to weave tennis rackets, seventy five cents was the payment for every racket we had done. Dad worked for the whole day and I helped him when school over. The job was tedious and harsh. Our hands became weary after hours of intertwining the strings. At the end of the day, dad tried to buy the best foods we could afford with the money; however, only rice and soy sauce could commensurate with the small income. Our difficult lives continued for another two years before my dad’s job was recovered. The boss gave us a dish so we could celebrate Tet, the Vietnamese traditional New Year holiday. Dad was so happy that he cried; for the first time in a while, his son has something decent to eat.
To me, memories always painful to look back; however a person needs to strive forward every time he fails. The image of my father being so humble that he cried for his son’s sake made a deep cut in my heart; never again I could spend a dollar without thinking of the hard work we went through to earn this. His refusal to come to America broke me down. His entire life, he gave his all to everyone, yet in the end, he is the one has to fight through life in loneliness.
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QUESTION:
Holiday Poems [C&C, I guess]?
I haven't written any poems in almost 6 months now (the ones I've posted recently are all old). To try and get myself back in the flow, I've challenged myself to come up with a poem for each of several major holidays. The only one I had trouble with was St. Patrick's Day, but it's 5AM and no sleep (insomnia's the one friend that never leaves me xD), so meh.
Here are the ones I actually did finish. C&C is welcome. No titles for any of them, but you can guess the holiday that inspired each.
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Boom go the colored lights, bright flames in the sky
Painting the clouds with so much ease, while their brothers take off and fly
Sizzle goes the charcoal, preparing our evening feast
Our ears delighted by the sound, our noses in heavenly peace
Our minds think back to the days of yore, the days before our birth
The men and women and children alike who afford us this day of mirth
And every country 'round the world that sees the setting sun
Has July the Fourth of course, but Independence for only One.
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It looks like I'm going away for a while, away to the land of the dead.
I just tried to be funny, but they yelled “Off with his head!”
But if I should return, to the world as a ghostly shade,
What better day to do it? 'Tis for ghosts this night is made.
“All Hallow's Eve” they called it, but I just called it fun,
And now that I'm back, intangibly so, I've news for everyone!
Tonight the ghosts are taking over, ruling all the world,
Revoking the rights to candy from all the boys and girls.
And teenagers at destructive raves should know only one thing:
We'd prefer you'd shut your mouths you foolish ding-a-lings.
Keep your glowsticks and your drugs; why should we care about that?
It's not like we could hold them, we've no bones nor skin nor fat.
But if those older and wiser than you should choose to turn you in
Don't come crying to us spirits, we've seen the way you sin!
And older folks, still young at heart, who Trick-or-Treat with joy
You're elderly, we know that, whatever lies you may employ.
So once again, I do decree October Thirty-first,
To be the night that all the living should expect the worst!
What's that you say? The sun is rising? Hah! I'll never care!
Oh, no! That burns! I'm fading away! But you know I was there.
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Give thanks to my family they tell me,
But that just seems cliché.
Instead I'll give thanks for what I see
As important in any way.
Thank you for my computer,
Without which I would be lost.
Thank you for my TV
And reruns of “Who's The Boss?”
Thank you for a Corvette,
Mom will get me one soon, right?
Thank you Thomas Edison
For letting me turn out the light.
Thank you to the turkey
Who gave his life for me
What's that? We won't eat until I say it?
Fine, thanks for my family.
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Hannukah, hannukah, eight days and eight nights,
But I can't help but notice it has much less pretty lights
Than Christmas trees around the world, covered in tinsel and glass,
And colored light bulbs wrapping them, and ornaments from the past.
I see my friend's old baby pictures hanging from a branch;
I ask him why and he replies “'Cause Christmas is our chance
To think back on our memories of love and hope and cheer.”
It makes me wonder why they can't remember things all year.
But then my friend continues on and gives me some bad news:
There's only ONE day of presents, so the best gifts they must choose.
I think I'll stick with Hannukah, eight presents, yes, eight gifts.
And if you ask me what it means, I'll answer you with this:
I may not know the details and I may not know it all,
But when I figure out some more, I'll be sure to give you a call.
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Lovers unite, one day a year.
Lovers unite, feel no fear.
Express your devotion to that special someone
With candy and cards, but no, you're not done!
To prove that you love them your words must be real,
Sincerer than ever when you say how you feel.
The angel-baby hovers around couples alone
I just wish that infant would throw me a bone.
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ANSWER:
Very nice and keep going
We wish for you a holiday
That's better than your dreams,
Filled with peace, good will and hope
And firelight that gleams,
Overflowing with holiday spirit
Good food and holiday laughter;
And when it's done, We hope that you
Live happily ever after!
By Joanna Fuchs
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QUESTION:
coworkers I think are using me but I may be wrong?
ok here I go..... Ive been working for an organization for 1 year... alright Ive been nice to everyone... when people wanna get something to eat I pay for it... help people with their work...Im just nice by nature I dont gossip I show my generousity, I have bought gifts for holidays for my co-worker with nothing in return (I rarely look for anything)... I love my job and I care about the people I work with but my generousity has made me a stepping mat for my co-workers to use me... I have had co-worker to ask me for money and never gave me the money back... I have had co-worker ask me to buy them thing because they didnt have the money and either never pay me back or buy something for someone else when they werent suppose to have had money.... anywho, this week has really send through a loop with my co-workers where im like "F" them all... Im being nice anymore....yesterday... it was time to go home... everyone was leaving and I wanted to go early as I get in my car one of my co-worker asked my boss to ask me to give him a ride and my boss was getting in the car... I beleive my boss couldve took the person home herself... she knew this person longer.....but what really send me through a loop was this older guy he works with me... we play after work he give me hugs and just yesterday he was rubbing on my leg out of fun I didnt see anything with it but we have fun anyways today we was at lunch and he grabbed my are playing... and I hit him playfully all of a sudden he got mad and said dont hit me and walked off saying I aint "F" ing with you no more... I tried to say sorry a host of time that day for hitting him but he wasnt listening and walked off....(I heard he wasnt having a good day anyway) I get in my car and I realize.... you know what... I have to stop saying sorry to people... because thats what theyre looking for me to say... because everytime I hurt someones feeling (like talk while their talking) I would say sorry and go and buy them something at my job(friends,family, and co-workers)... I think they got the memo and using it against me like if you get mad at her she will by you something so use her.... and I just bought this guy some food the day before because I was being generous... was I wrong? should I go and say sorry tomorrow?
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ANSWER:
They are definitely using you!!!! That co-worker isn't your friend either, he is just looking to get sex from you. You need to worry about your job only and not worry about these other people. Joyce Meyer wrote a book called Approval Addiction, about how some people are People Pleasers, trying to please other people and they should be just trying to please God. I think this would be a great book for you to read.
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QUESTION:
Title: never play with co-workers... never let them play with you?
ok here I go..... Ive been working for an organization for 1 year... alright Ive been nice to everyone... when people wanna get something to eat I pay for it... help people with their work...Im just nice by nature I dont gossip I show my generousity, I have bought gifts for holidays for my co-worker with nothing in return (I rarely look for anything)... I love my job and I care about the people I work with but my generousity has made me a stepping mat for my co-workers to use me... I have had co-worker to ask me for money and never gave me the money back... I have had co-worker ask me to buy them thing because they didnt have the money and either never pay me back or buy something for someone else when they werent suppose to have had money.... anywho, this week has really send through a loop with my co-workers where im like "F" them all... Im being nice anymore....yesterday... it was time to go home... everyone was leaving and I wanted to go early as I get in my car one of my co-worker asked my boss to ask me to give him a ride and my boss was getting in the car... I beleive my boss couldve took the person home herself... she knew this person longer.....but what really send me through a loop was this older guy he works with me... we play after work he give me hugs and just yesterday he was rubbing on my leg out of fun I didnt see anything with it but we have fun anyways today we was at lunch and he grabbed my are playing... and I hit him playfully all of a sudden he got mad and said dont hit me and walked off saying I aint "F" ing with you no more... I tried to say sorry a host of time that day for hitting him but he wasnt listening and walked off....(I heard he wasnt having a good day anyway) I get in my car and I realize.... you know what... I have to stop saying sorry to people... because thats what theyre looking for me to say... because everytime I hurt someones feeling (like talk while their talking) I would say sorry and go and buy them something at my job(friends,family, and co-workers)... I think they got the memo and using it against me like if you get mad at her she will by you something so use her.... and I just bought this guy some food the day before because I was being generous... was I wrong? should I go and say sorry tomorrow
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ANSWER:
you are a doormat, and people will take advantage. stop giving things away, especially MONEY, which is what your working for.
expect all money loaned to be repaid.
come over, and her mom tries to get Sophie to come back with her because she doesn't approve of her and Leo's "relationship", but she stays. During Christmas, a bunch of people are in a Secret Santa, but Leo and Sophie get gifts for each other and for Monte too.
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